Tips and Tricks

Men have this idea that all women are the same and that once they've learned a special technique it will work with all women. The reality is that the majority of women cannot cum through sexual intercourse alone. As we mentioned in the last post, only about 10% of women can orgasm by g-spot stimulation, which means that there has to be some sort of other stimulation as well.

When a woman masturbates, she tends to rub side-to-side on her clitoris. There seems to be better results with left-to-right motions as opposed to going up and down. When going down on her, try using your tongue in that same left-to-right motion. We know that going up and down comes more natural, but really try and practice this left-to-right motion technique, if push comes to shove lay perpendicular to her in order to still move your tongue up and down but create a left to right motion on her clitoris; we promise she will feel the difference and have her eyes rolling back.

Another technique that seems to be a crowd pleaser but takes a little more skill is the figure eights. With your tongue, you literally want to draw the number 8 around her clitoris. This is a technique that is sure to do the trick! But remember; do not rely on this technique alone, it's all about variation.

A popular technique that also works quite well is drawing the alphabet with your tongue. It provides variation with continuous stimulation. Try this while alternating speed and intensity until you find the right rhythm that works for your girl.

If you're in the middle of the carnal act, try using your fingers to stimulate her clitoris. Doing this will have her in a frenzy. You can even try to have her do it herself while you're inside her. I'm sure this will be a new experience for both of you; she gets the stimulation she needs while giving you a sneak peak at what she does behind closed doors.

So men, please don't group us all and assume that using same boring techniques work with among all women. Not all kitties are created equally.

Now ladies, if your men are going through all this trouble to give you the big "O" there are also some fool proof tricks you can use to blow his mind away. Keep in mind that men really love a woman who enjoys giving oral, so even if it's not your favorite thing, fake it. Look him in the eyes a couple of times and moan a bit, trust us it really works.

When giving him a blow job, start off by licking from the bottom of the shaft up. This move is commonly known as the lollipop, the reason it works so well is because the same tissue that makes up a clitoris makes up the head of the penis and the frenulum (that little part right underneath the head), making it the most sensitive parts. By licking bottom up your creating anticipation so when you finally lick the head the pleasure will be intensified. Make sure to pay special attention to the frenulum by giving it a few extra licks.

Once you have his penis in your mouth use your tongue to draw circles around the head while stroking his shaft. Change directions from clockwise to counterclockwise with your tongue to provide variety. This move can also be done with the palm of your hand by mimicking the motion done when squeezing a lemon on a juicer. Take his penis and use your hand to rotate it around the head, make sure you have plenty of lubrication. This move will have his eyes rolling into the back of his head.

When giving a blow job remember to use your tongue to lick while you maintain suction. Don't just bob up and down; lick, suck, and use your hand to keep the whole penis covered. Alternate speed and depth. Make sure you throw in a few deep ones to keep him entertained, but don't over do it. Remember ladies the trick to deep throat is to relax the throat and ease the penis in, but don't go further than you're comfortable with.

Lastly don't forget the family jewels, keep them involved by massaging them gently or licking them. And as a friendly reminder ladies keep the teeth concealed (try imitating a grandma with no dentures, by tucking your lips under your teeth), no man wants Jaws going down on them.

Remember to K.I.S.S.

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G-Spot

Most people have never heard of Ernst Gräfenberg, but they sure know of his research. He was the German gynecologist that through his study on urethral stimulation came the term G-Spot. This special spot is located in the upper wall of the vagina about 1 to 3 inches inside and feels like a small spongy pad. Now, I'm sure we all have heard of the G-Spot and have a clear understanding to what it is. It's the spot that, when stimulated, can bring any woman to orgasm.

The positioning of the G-Spot is actually relatively difficult for a woman to touch for herself, but her partner can get to it by inserting one or two fingers. Once the partner has located the G-Spot, they can rub it in small circles or use the ever popular "come hither" motion. If done just right, the woman may have the urge to urinate, but that feeling will subside and feelings of pure pleasure take over. While stroking the G-Spot, a fluid may come out of the urethra. It is virtually colorless and tends to smell very sweet.

Although many women will admit to feeling this amazing little spot, most will tell you that stroking the G-Spot alone will not get the job done, while others will say the orgasm feels stronger and more powerful. These women who can orgasm through G-Spot stimulation alone can tell you that it is a completely different type of orgasm compared to a clitoral stimulated orgasm. After a woman has had a G-Spot induced orgasm, she might be very restless and unable to move from its intensity.

There are a few positions that can help with G-Spot stimulation: doggie-style, missionary but with her legs on her partner's chest/shoulders and reverse cowgirl. When positioned in the right way, a woman can achieve a G-Spot orgasm through doggie-style position. First, the woman must be on all fours, spread her legs and arch her back slightly. Keeping an arched back will help to create the perfect angle for G-Spot stimulation. The purpose of doggie-style is to help with full penetration. Many women say they can feel their partner in their stomachs!

While doing the missionary position, the woman can lift her legs up and lean them on the partner's chest/shoulders; this position also creates a great angle to hit the G-Spot. The man can lean on her thighs while the woman can guide him by the hips into her. Women can also try folding a pillow in half and putting it under their butt without raising their legs on his chest/shoulders. This can help create a very similar position without the acrobatics.

Lastly, there is the reverse cowgirl; similar to girl on top, but with her face facing the man's feet. The woman is in total control in this position and can go as fast or slow as she'd like. Keep in mind that while doing this position, she should lean forward to hit the G-Spot at the right angle. When done correctly, she will also have some clitoral stimulation as well while grinding on her man.

For the ladies that are going solo and want some G-Spot stimulation or the men brave enough to allow toys in the bedroom, there are some toys designed special for this. The main thing you want to keep in mind is having a toy with a curve at the tip. This curve will allow you to hit the G-Spot with every stroke. Try going to the sex shop with your partner and choosing a toy out together.

Now, with all of the G-Spot talk, I'm sure that most of you will be shocked to know that studies show that only about 10% of women can actually orgasm this way. This means that 90% need other ways to get off. Some women need more stimulation on their clitoris to really get off. Stay tuned for the next post where we will give you more ways to see your ladies "O" face!

Remember to K.I.S.S.

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Suck it up!

Let’s face it, when it comes to going down on a guy most women know where to start and how to fake the middle, but never really know how to handle the ending. The bottom line is pretty simple ladies: just open up and swallow.

Now before you begin cringing at the mere idea of spunk in your mouth you should take a few things into consideration. First of all, men don't really have a choice of whether or not they want us spilling into their mouths. When they're going down on us our stuff gets everywhere and they don't complain. They usually come up all smiles, covered down to their chin in our juices. We all need to ask ourselves, if our men enjoy going down on us, and being saturated in us, why are so many of us against doing the same? It's a little selfish and we know most men would agree.

Second, imagine as you're about to climax from amazing oral he pulls away and starts using his fingers; you're going to be disappointed. We all know what that's like, you're almost there and the tiniest change in motion or speed throws us off. Picture being a guy and you have your noodle in a nice warm, wet place, then as you're about to orgasm bam you're thrust into the cold. That makes for a pretty disappointing ending.

The last point to be made is this: you get to have total control over him and his orgasm. You will have him by the balls, literally if you’d like. When you stay latched on and just suck it up, you can control the intensity of his orgasm making him go crazy. Now I know that we're not all control freaks, but trust me you will never forget that moment, as his face contorts and he goes into near epileptic seizures. Who knows, you might just develop a fetish for it. By the way, we can almost guarantee that he will never forget it. In fact, after giving him such intense level of pleasure, we promise he will want to return the favor again and again.

Ladies, the reality is most guys really just don't care what you do with their spunk; they're just satisfied with the fact that they got their noodle wet. So if you're completely grossed out by the idea of swallowing, our suggestion is to keep a paper towel and a glass of juice nearby, so you can spit and rinse. The problem with spitting it out is that it will actually sit in your mouth for a longer period of time and you will taste it a lot more. So our recommendation is when you see (or feel) that he's getting to his high point, relax your mouth, take as much of it in, and just suck it up and swallow as quickly as possible. This will help it bypass most of your taste buds and make it easier on you. After you do it a few times it will become second nature and you won't stress the act as much. Most women are afraid of not just the taste, but of the act itself. Let's face it, some of us equate swallowing with something only ladies of the night would do, thus turning it into a shameful and embarrassing act, but it’s not. Ladies, you need to get past these psychological hurdles before you can allow yourself to enjoy it along with your man. It's okay to be a little dirty sometimes, sex is more fun that way.

Once you jump those hurdles, get ready to blow your man's mind by trying this: next time you're having sex tell him to warn you before he reaches climax, then, as he's about to, push him off and finish him with your mouth. Make sure to suck a little past climax to really make him go crazy. This technique also works well with a condom, just make sure you grip it at the base. This little stunt will make him go crazy and you will want to incorporate this move every once in a while into your routine to spice things up. Plus, it's cheaper than buying new lingerie.

I know most of you right now are shaking your heads, while the men reading this are hoping their wives or girlfriends learn this lesson, but men don't think you're getting off so easily. The reason most women won’t swallow or even let you erupt in their mouths is because the stuff can taste just plain awful. Bad tasting semen is the equivalent of a dirty kitty. So gentlemen, please keep this in mind. You may be asking yourself, "How do I make my spunk yummy?" The general consensus is to eat more fruits, like kiwi, pineapple, and melons. Dairy products, beer, and a high fat diet make your spunk taste bitter. The trick we always suggest is to drink pineapple juice; a glass at any point in the day will help make it sweet. Drink it in the morning or before bed, it doesn't matter but it will make a huge difference and keep her coming back for more.

We will leave you with this: remember to only do what you're comfortable with. If we succeeded in convincing you to try it then great, but you will enjoy it a lot more if the desire to try this comes from you. It's also okay to be nervous the first time, we aren't born porn stars but we can definitely try to act like one when we want. Enthusiasm plays a major role in the level of enjoyment for both parties, so just have fun. Our final thought is a simple but important one: stay safe. Make sure the source you're drinking from is clean; you can always mimic the sensation with a condom on and keep yourself protected.

Remember to K.I.S.S.

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Dead Fish

Now that we discussed how to get things going in the opening act, we can talk about an important issue: the dead fish. If you can’t guess the quick answer, it’s that being a dead fish is not really the best of things. Maybe a friend or two has mentioned "It was like having sex with a log." No one wants to knock boots with a person who doesn't even seem to be enjoying it.

Men and women alike prefer a partner that makes a little noise. How else would they know if their partner is getting any pleasure by what they're doing? A little moan and groan here and there never hurt anyone. Now, you don't want to overdo it and put Jenna Jameson out of business either, but you sure as hell want to let your partner know that you're enjoying the experience. Never be afraid to tell your partner what you like. If your partner isn't exactly hitting the right spot, try guiding them with your hand and when they’re hitting the spot just right let them know with an "Oh! Right there! I like it when you do that." or whatever other dirty little descriptions come to mind. In doing this you're not being a jerk about it or making them feel as if they're completely lost or incompetent. By the way, for the record, we would like to state that when you hear the words "DON'T STOP!" it means just that. Don't be scared. Don't stop to think about what you just heard. Don't do anything except whatever you were doing because it's obviously working.

Vocalization isn’t the only thing you need to do; you will want to try and move around a little, too. If he's on top don't be scared to give a little thrust of your own every once in awhile. Grab his back or bite his shoulder from time to time too. Go ahead and scratch his back lightly (and if you think he might be into it, dig a little deeper). If you're in the middle of some intense pleasure filled cunnilingus, please feel free to grab his face and bury it into your kitty. We're pretty sure he'll go nuts over it. We all want to be the master of the bedroom but we're not all the same and that means sometimes you have to put your pride away and learn the special tricks that make your partner go insane. There are some little tricks and moves that work across the board, but everyone is different, so pay attention and learn all of your partner’s special spots. Take time to explore their body and don't worry if they make a suggestion or two you've already gotten this far;, so you must be doing something right; check your neurosis at the door and enjoy yourself. Don’t be afraid to take charge sometimes, don't always play bottom, get up and ride.

Unfortunately sometimes, it's not your partners fault. Some people just haven't explored themselves enough and simply do not know what gets them off. There's nothing wrong with this and, thankfully, there is a simple solution: lock yourself up in your room and go to town! When you learn what you like it'll be easier to get in the mood and not be such a log! You’ll also be able to better communicate to your partner what gets you off, and that’s always a good thing. Consider dimming the lights and lighting some candles. Maybe a nice hot bubble bath can do the trick and get you in the mood. Don't be scared of yourself, it's not like you're going to bite yourself, unless you're into that sort of thing, you kinky little devil you. The point of this is to figure out which spots turn YOU on. Not all women are the same and we don't all get off with the same techniques. Some women like it fast while some like it slow. Others need more pressure while some prefer less. It's up to you to figure it out and let your partner know.

Men, don't think you're getting away with anything either. Lord knows there are a ton of you that are silent from start to finish. Even if you're doing all the work at times and are certainly not a dead fish, how are we supposed to know if you're enjoying the ride if you haven't said a single word? If we wanted a robot, we would use one of the toys we already have hidden away in a trunk or drawer somewhere. Please lead by example and show a little enthusiasm. As much as you hate the dead fish, so do the ladies.


Remember to K.I.S.S.

A&A

The Opening Act

Let's face it, women are very complex creatures. It's this complexity that makes a woman enchanting and ethereal at times; unfortunately this complexity also applies to the ever elusive orgasm. The real question here is how many licks does it take to get to the center of the tootsie pop? Some women are freaks and have the ability to cum on command (this article is not for you so please return to your ecstasy filled world). Now, as for the rest of us poor schmucks, let us take the plunge and discover what really gets chicks off.

First and foremost in order to really make us see a deity of some form we must be really turned on; when I say "really turned on" I mean in every sense of the word: psychologically and physically. With that being said, just because it’s Niagara falls down there doesn't mean we're ready for the big O; women love anticipation and a little delay of gratification goes a long way. It's why we love sappy romance novels, we are programmed to enjoy a good struggle; we love what we can't have. However please don't tease us all night; the build-up is just as important as the release. So what we’re trying to say is don't dive like an Olympic diver straight for the deep end, splash around in the shallows first.

Now it’s going to take too long to really go into all the ways to get a woman to orgasm, so for now were going to discuss some fail proof steps to make the process a little faster. Before you go down south take the time to explore your partner. Begin with soft, sensual kissing and gradually build up the speed; most people underestimate how arousing kissing is so it's time to take it back to basics. This next move works on most women and it's one that will really make her lose it; place one hand on the back of the neck, slowly slide it up grabbing her hair very close to the base of the scalp and give it a gentle tug. You can increase the intensity of the tugging depending on how much she likes it, but please don't pull out hair, that just hurts and the eroticism of the moment is lost. Next do some nibbling on the jaw, the neck, and the little indentation in the clavicle (this is a really sensitive spot that often goes untouched). The next step down her body is an easy one; feel free to experiment with different strokes of the tongue, sucking, biting, etc. Nipples are usually very responsive to any kind of stimuli; I find, like with everything else, it's better to start slow and work up the intensity (good sequence to follow: light licking, sucking, biting and back to licking). Now you can work your way to the real fun, and where you can get a little more aggressive (depending on how she likes it) with the sucking and biting. Position yourself to go deep sea diving but don't dive in just yet. Place your hands under her rump and begin nibbling on her inner thighs. Fun trick, as you switch from side to side, use your tongue to glide over her clitoris teasing her the whole time. Remember to listen to her body and encourage her to grab your head/hair (if she doesn't naturally do that, of course) because it adds to the physical intimacy of the moment by further connecting you two, and it let's her guide you should she so want to, whether it be pushing you in, or guiding your head side-to-side, etc.

By now she should be putty in your hands and ready for you to go to town on her. You can keep this up for as long as you want or until she's begging for it, but the truth is, on a normal day, this process shouldn't take longer than a few minutes. Believe me you would be surprised how these simple little moves can drive a woman over the edge. Remember to always maintain enthusiasm and switch up the moves (don't be boring, variety is key).

Remember to K.I.S.S

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Introduction

I'm sure you're wondering what "From Here to Here" means. The short explanation is very simple, how to go from zero to orgasm without a hitch. No two people on Earth are the same and we all like different things. The point to this blog is to discover new ways of getting ourselves and our partners off while learning a thing or two along the way. Our goal is to get everyone to have a healthy view of sex and human sexuality. Human beings are sexual creatures and there is no reason why we shouldn't explore our sexuality as long as we are safe and have fun with it.

Sex shouldn't be taken too seriously so lay back and enjoy.....

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